Relationship Astrology

Venus is the planet of how a native loves and how they need to be loved, and it is read for relationships in four layers, in the same order every planet page in this cluster uses. What Venus rules for the ascendant, which decides what the Venus period brings, a bond for Aries and Scorpio where it rules the seventh, a romance for Gemini and Capricorn where it rules the fifth, and something else entirely where it rules the sixth or the twelfth. The sign, which is the love language, what the native gives without thinking and needs without asking. The house, which is where the love lives and where it is met. And the condition, exalted in Pisces, debilitated in Virgo, combust, retrograde, or in the company of Saturn, Rahu, Ketu or Mars, each of which changes what the native’s love is like from inside. The twelve-ascendant table, the Venus period for relationships, Venus retrograde in transit, the weak Venus and what does and does not help it, and a worked chart of a Libra lagna whose exalted Venus in the sixth loved through service.

The question after a breakup is how long, and the chart answers it as a season with a length, which is more than the friends can offer and less than the native fears. The months after an ending are the remainder of the sub-period the ending fell in, and sometimes the next, and they run in three phases that the houses name: the loss, the twelfth’s work; the transformation, the eighth’s; and the rebuilding, the second’s and eleventh’s. The chart reads how long the season runs, by the sub-period’s dates; what lengthens it, Saturn over the Moon, and what lifts it, Jupiter over the Moon or the fifth, Ketu’s detachment, the next carrier’s arrival; what helps this particular chart, by which houses are strong, the friends of the eleventh, the words of the third, the work of the tenth, the journey of the ninth, the home of the fourth; the pull back and its dates; the grief that is thinner than expected after a fade and the one that does not lift and is for a counsellor as well as the chart; and when the heart is next available, which is the find-love page’s question. An eight-house table of what helps, and a worked chart of a Libra lagna whose season ran eleven months and lifted in the eleventh lord’s sub-period, among her friends.

Mars is the planet of desire, initiative and the fight, and a relationship without it is a friendship; a relationship with too much of it is a war. The chart reads Mars for relationships in four layers. What Mars rules for the ascendant, which decides what its period brings, the bond for Taurus and Libra where it rules the seventh, the romance for Cancer and Sagittarius where it rules the fifth, and the quarrel for Gemini and Scorpio where it rules the sixth. The sign, which is how the native wants and how they fight, hot and fast in fire, slow and held in earth, argued in air, sulked in water. The house, where the heat lives, with Mangal dosha read as what it is and not as a curse, the partner who is a match rather than a comfort, and the cancellations that the classical rules give. And the condition, exalted in Capricorn, debilitated in Cancer, with Venus, Saturn, Rahu, Ketu or the Moon. The twelve-ascendant table, the Mars period and its short hot seasons, Mars’s transit over the seventh as the quarrel window, the line where heat becomes harm and the reading stops, and a worked chart of a Cancer lagna whose dosha was a yoga.

Most people who ask about a relationship do not have a birth time, or have one that was rounded to the hour, and the answer they are usually given is either a full reading on a guessed time, which is a reading of the wrong chart, or nothing. There are three honest routes, and this page sets out what each can answer. The day chart, the planets by sign for the date alone, which reads the Moon’s sign on most days, Venus and Mars by sign, the nodes, and most of the synastry between two people, and cannot read the houses, the seventh lord, the Navamsa or the dasha dates. The horary, a chart cast for the moment the question is sincerely asked or from a number between 1 and 249, in which the querent is the first house and the other person the seventh, which answers a specific question, will we be together, will they come back, is this the one, with a timing, and cannot describe a life. And rectification, which recovers the birth time from dated events and gives back the whole natal reading. A table of which relationship questions each route can answer, the sincerity rule, the Moon in the horary, the KP form with its cusp sub-lord and the Parashari form with its lords’ reception, timing from the horary, the two-person question with only one time known, and a worked horary for “will we be together” that answered no for now with a date.

Venus is how a native loves, and the Moon is what they need in order to feel safe while loving, and most of what two people who love each other cannot explain to each other lives in the second. The chart reads the Moon for relationships in the four layers the planet pages use. The house the Moon rules for the ascendant, one house for each, which decides what the Moon’s period brings, the partner for Capricorn, the romance for Pisces, the home for Aries. The sign, which is the emotional need itself, to be felt in water, to be safe in earth, to be admired and left free in fire, to be talked to in air. The house, which is where the need is met and by whom. And the condition, exalted in Taurus, debilitated in Scorpio, with Saturn, Rahu, Ketu or Mars, waxing or dark, which decides how easily the need is felt and said. Moon-to-Moon compatibility, which is what the classical matching was measuring all along, the Moon period’s seasons of the heart, the twelve-ascendant table, and a worked pair whose Moons were four signs apart.

Everything on this site about relationships before and outside marriage begins here. The three questions a relationship reading answers, what draws you, whether this holds, and when it changes, and the order they are asked in. The crisis pages, the ex who may return, the breakup and which endings hold, the one-sided love, the relationship that harms, and the season after an ending. The love marriage and the other person, the double window, whether they feel the same, the family, the partner who will not commit. The shapes a relationship takes, at a distance, in secret, with someone married, across an age gap, on the karmic axis, and after a divorce. The beginning, for the native who has never been in one and the one who asks when. The six planets, Venus, Mars, the Moon, Rahu, Saturn and Ketu, each read for love. The technical layer, the fifth and seventh together, synastry, which dasha carries love, and the transits. How a reconciliation reading is done and what to do without a birth time. A table of all thirty articles, how this cluster stands beside the marriage pages, and an hour’s method for reading your own chart for love.

Rahu is the planet of appetite, and in a relationship it is the wanting that does not know what it wants, only that it wants more: the partner from outside, another country, another community, another generation, another life; the pursuit that consumes; the bond that is the greatest the native has felt and reverses when its season ends. It is not a malefic to be feared and it is not a love to be trusted, and the chart reads it in four layers of its own, since Rahu rules nothing and acts through the sign lord it borrows. The dispositor, which decides what Rahu’s appetite is made of. The house, which decides where it lives, in a twelve-house table for relationships. The company, Venus, the Moon, Mars or the Sun, which decides how it feels from inside. And the period, eighteen years in two halves, and the eighteen-month transit over the fifth or seventh, which decide when the appetite rises and when it reverses. The difference between love and Rahu, the outsider partner who was right, the obsession and where the reading stops, and a worked chart of a Leo lagna whose Rahu in the seventh, with an exalted dispositor, married the foreigner in the dispositor’s sub-period.

The question arrives in the same words every day, and the honest answer has a shape: the chart can read whether the period that carried the relationship is still running or has changed, whether the doors of the seventh and fifth houses are open or closing, and when a return, if the chart supports one, would fall; it cannot read the other person’s mind, and it cannot make anyone come back. Eight signals in your own chart with what each means and what to do, the difference between a message and a reunion, what a second chart adds, the horary route when you have no birth details for them, the timing by sub-period and transit, the return that would harm, the reading that says no and how to hear it, and two worked charts, one where the ex returned in the same sub-period and one where the period had already turned.

Saturn does three things to a relationship, in order: it delays it, it tests it, and it makes the ones that pass the test last longer than any other planet’s bonds. The chart reads Saturn for relationships in the four layers the planet pages use. What Saturn rules for the ascendant, which decides what its nineteen years bring, the bond for Cancer and Leo where it rules the seventh, the romance for Virgo and Libra where it rules the fifth, and the crisis or the distance for others. The sign, which is how the native withholds and endures, exalted in Libra as the fair and patient bond, debilitated in Aries as the fear that acts too soon. The house, where the delay and the test fall, the seventh for the late marriage and the older partner, the fifth for the slow romance, the first for the reserved self. And the condition, with Venus, the Moon, Mars, Rahu or the Sun, which decides what the withholding costs. The twelve-ascendant table, the Saturn period and its Venus and Moon sub-periods, Sade Sati as the relationship’s seven-year review, the two Saturn returns as the structural audits, the older partner, and a worked chart of a Cancer lagna whose debilitated seventh lord married at thirty-three after the first return and the Sade Sati that ended the wrong relationship.

Relationships end for reasons the two people can name and for a reason the chart names underneath them: the sub-period that carried the relationship turned, or the fifth and seventh houses were never able to hold it, or Venus sat under a planet that ends what it touches. The houses and planets of the ending, the six kinds of ending and the planet behind each, nine breakup signatures in a table with whether each kind of ending holds, the native who breaks up the same way every time and what the pattern is made of, the transits that end and the ones that only test, the difference between a breakup and a pause, what a second chart adds, and a worked chart of a Gemini lagna whose three endings were one signature until the fourth relationship fell in a different period.