Most people who ask whether a relationship can be repaired have already been given an answer by someone, and it was usually a yes, and it usually came with a remedy attached. This page sets out how the reading is actually done here, step by step, so that a reader knows what it needs, how it reaches its answer, and what they get for the fee, before they book it. A reconciliation reading is a method and not a hope. It checks the birth time, because a reading on a rounded time is a reading of the wrong chart. It places the relationship in the dasha, because the single most useful fact is whether the period that carried it is still running. It reads the doors of the seventh and fifth against the twelfth and eighth. It adds the other person’s chart when there is one and a horary when there is not. It runs the safety check, and stops if the answer requires it. And it reaches one of three answers, which are the only three the chart contains: a yes with a season, a no with a date, or a no for now with the later door named. The eight steps are below, with the three tiers of the reading, what it needs from you, what it will not do, what you receive, and a reading walked through as a case.
It belongs to the complete relationship astrology guide. The question itself in its own page is Will My Ex Come Back?; its marital counterpart, the question of repairing or ending a marriage, belongs to the troubled-marriage pages, Divorce or Reconcile? and navigating marital discord by dasha; and the consultation itself, its form and its fee, is on the consultation page.
Conventions used. Parashari astrology, whole-sign houses, Lahiri ayanamsa, Vimshottari dasha, with the KP horary as the instrument when the other person’s details are absent; the birth time checked against events before anything is read; the relationship placed in the native’s dasha by its beginning and its ending; the other person read only from their own chart or a horary. The reading gives one of three answers and a season for each, promises nothing, sells nothing, and begins with the safety question where the relationship has harmed. Nothing here is a remedy.
Eight steps, three tiers, three possible answers, and no remedy attached.
A reconciliation consultation runs the eight steps on this page: the birth time check, the relationship placed in your dasha, the doors, the spouse description, the second chart and the double window if you have their details, the horary if you do not, the safety check, and the answer in one of its three forms with a season named; you receive a written brief before the call and the call itself.
In this article
- A method, not a hope: what the reading is
- The three tiers, and what the reading needs from you
- Step one: the birth time check
- Step two: the relationship placed in the dasha
- Steps three and four: the doors, and the spouse description
- Steps five and six: the second chart and the double window, or the horary
- The eight steps at a glance
- Step seven: the safety check
- Step eight: the three answers, and how each is said
- What the reading will not do, and what you receive
- A reading walked through: the broken engagement
- Frequently asked questions
A method, not a hope: what the reading is
The internet’s reconciliation reading is a Venus transit, a Rahu remedy and a yes, and it is offered to everyone because it costs nothing to say and the person asking wants to hear it. The reading on this page is a different thing. It is a fixed sequence of checks, each of which can say no, run in an order that puts the cheap and decisive checks first so that a native is not charged for a horary when the dasha has already answered. It treats the relationship as an event in the native’s chart with a beginning and an ending, both of which fall in sub-periods that can be read, and it treats the other person as a separate chart with a separate calendar. It uses the earlier pages of this cluster as its parts: the period check from the ex-return page, the doors and the double window from the pages on the ex and on marrying the person you love, the spouse description from the same, the horary from the horary pages, the safety line from the page on the relationship that harms. And it ends in one of three sentences, because the chart contains three and not one, and because the second and third of them are the ones the native has usually never been given and are usually the ones that help. A reader who wants a yes can find one anywhere; the reading here is for the reader who wants to know.
The three tiers, and what the reading needs from you
The reading is done at one of three levels, depending on what the native has. With the native’s chart alone, it reads the native’s side of the bond: the period that carried the relationship and whether it still runs, the doors of the seventh and fifth, the timing of a return if one is supported, and whether the other person matches the spouse the native’s chart describes; what it cannot read is the other person’s own season, which is the limit the ex-return page states. With both charts, it reads both sides, the other person’s period and doors, and lays the two dasha tables together for the double window, the overlap of the two seasons in which a return would be possible for both, which is the reading that answers the question the native actually has, since a return needs two open doors. With neither, only the native’s chart and no details of the other person’s, it adds a horary, cast either for the instant of a sincere question or from a number between 1 and 249 the native gives, with the native as the first house and the other person as the seventh, and reads the movement between the two, as the ex-return horary guide and the relationship horary page set out. The tiers are not prices; the consultation is one consultation, and the tier is whichever the native’s information allows, with the second tier the one to aim for when the other person’s date and place are known, since the time can be approximated for the doors and the period even when it is not exact.
The birth details, date, time and place, are the beginning and not the whole. A reconciliation reading needs the relationship’s timeline, which most natives do not think to send and which is the thing the reading uses most: the month the relationship began, the month it ended, the months of any earlier separations and returns, the month of an engagement or a move if there was one, and the month of the last contact. Those dates place the relationship in the dasha in step two, and a native who sends them has done half the reading’s preparation. It needs the other person’s date and place of birth if the native has them, and the time if it is known, with the honest note that a time the native is unsure of is sent as unsure; and it needs, where the native has none of that, a willingness to ask the horary question once, sincerely, on a day when the question is real, rather than every morning. It needs the question as the native actually means it, since “will they come back” and “should I wait” and “is it over” are three questions with three readings, and the native who says which one they mean gets that one answered. And it needs three or four dated events from the native’s own life outside the relationship, a job change, a move, a family event, for the birth time check in step one. The consultation page describes how the details are sent and the reading returned; the list here is what makes the reading a reading.
Step one: the birth time check
Every relationship reading depends on the seventh house, the dasha balance and the Navamsa, and all three move with the birth time: the dasha dates shift by months for a few minutes of error, the Navamsa lagna changes every thirteen minutes or so, and a seventh house near a sign boundary changes outright. So the first step, before anything is read, is to check the recorded time against the native’s dated events, the job change, the move, the family event, and the relationship’s own beginning and ending, which must fall in sub-periods that could have carried them; a time that puts the relationship’s beginning in a sub-period that cannot begin one is a time that is wrong, and the reading says so before it says anything else. A time that passes the check is read; a time that fails it is narrowed by the events, in the way the birth time rectification guide describes, and where the narrowing needs more than a consultation can hold, the native is told so and pointed to the rectification service rather than given a reading on a time the reader does not trust. A rounded time that happens to pass the check is used with the caution that the Navamsa layer is provisional. This step is the one most readings skip, and it is the reason most readings on this question are wrong in the way that matters, which is by a season.
Step two: the relationship placed in the dasha
With the time checked, the relationship’s timeline is laid on the dasha table, and the reading finds the sub-period in which it began, which is its carrier: the lord of the seventh or the fifth, Venus, or an occupant of either house, and the sub-period in which it ended, which is either the same one or a later one, and if later, whose. This is the ex-return page’s single most useful check, done with dates: a relationship that ended inside its own carrier sub-period, with that sub-period still running, ended inside the story, and the reading’s first sentence is that the period is not finished with it; a relationship that ended at a change of sub-period, into the twelfth lord’s, the eighth lord’s, the sixth lord’s or Ketu’s, ended with the calendar, and a return would need a new carrier. The step also reads the present: which sub-period is running now, whether it is a carrier’s, a breaker’s or neither, and when the next carrier’s begins. The output of step two is a sentence with three dates in it, the carrier’s end, the present sub-period’s end, and the next carrier’s start, and in most readings the answer’s shape is already visible here, before the doors or the second chart are opened; the reading continues because the season needs the transits and the other chart, but the native who receives only step two has received more than most readings give.
Steps three and four: the doors, and the spouse description
Step three reads the doors: the seventh and fifth against the twelfth and eighth, by the present sub-period and by the transits over them. Jupiter over the seventh, fifth or natal Venus opens the year; Saturn over the seventh is the two and a half years of test; Ketu over the fifth or seventh is the fade; Rahu over them the appetite; and the present sub-period belonging to the twelfth or eighth lord is the door closing whatever the transits say, since the period decides and the transit times, as the transits page holds. The output is whether the native’s own door is open, closing, or opening later, and the season. Step four reads the spouse description, from the seventh lord’s placement, the Navamsa seventh and the Darakaraka, and compares the other person to it: a partner who matches the description is one the chart was built for, and a return to them is a return to the seventh house; a partner who matches none of it was a fifth-house relationship, real and not the bond, and a return to them is a return to the romance, which has a different season and a different ending. This step is the one that most often changes the reading’s tone, since a native asking about a partner who matches nothing in the description is asking the right question about the wrong person, and the reading says so gently and says what the description does show.
Steps five and six: the second chart and the double window, or the horary
Step five, with the other person’s details, repeats steps one, two and three on their chart: their time checked as far as it can be, the relationship placed in their dasha, their doors read. Then the two dasha tables are laid together for the double window: the season, if any, in which both charts have a carrier’s sub-period and at least one has Jupiter’s transit over the seventh, fifth or Venus, which is the only season in which a return is possible for both, and the reading names it or names its absence. The synastry is read alongside, the two seventh lords, the two Moons and the malefic overlays, for whether the bond was a bond or an attraction, which colours the answer without deciding it. Step six, without the other person’s details, casts the horary: the question as the native means it, asked once, the chart cast for the moment or the number, the querent as the first house and the other as the seventh, the reception between the two lords, the applying or separating aspect between them, the Moon’s condition for the question’s ripeness and the querent’s own underneath, and the timing from the aspect’s distance. The horary is read beside the natal steps and not instead of them, and a horary yes in a natal chart whose next carrier is four years away is a yes with a long wait, which is said as such. Either step produces the same output: whether the other side’s door is open, and the season in which the two seasons meet.
The eight steps at a glance
| Step | What it checks | What it can say |
|---|---|---|
| 1. Birth time check | The recorded time against dated events and the relationship’s own dates | Read, narrow, or refer for rectification; nothing is read on a time that fails |
| 2. Relationship in the dasha | The sub-period it began in, the one it ended in, the one running now, the next carrier | Inside the story, or ended with the calendar; three dates |
| 3. The doors | The 7th and 5th against the 12th and 8th, by sub-period and transit | Open, closing, or opening later; the season |
| 4. The spouse description | The 7th lord’s placement, the Navamsa 7th, the Darakaraka, against the person | The seventh house’s partner, or a fifth-house relationship |
| 5. The second chart and the double window | Their period, their doors, the two dasha tables laid together, the synastry | The season both doors are open, or its absence; bond or attraction |
| 6. The horary, when there are no details | The 1st and 7th lords’ reception and aspect, the Moon, the timing | Toward or apart, and when; read beside the natal steps |
| 7. The safety check | Whether the relationship harmed; the signature of harm in the chart | The reading stops at the safety line and gives no timing for a return |
| 8. The answer | All of the above together | A yes with a season, a no with a date, or a no for now with the later door named |
Steps one and two are done before the consultation from the details sent; steps three to eight are the consultation’s work, and the written brief carries all eight.
Step seven: the safety check
Before the answer is given, the reading asks whether the relationship harmed the native, in the plain terms the page on the relationship that harms uses: fear, violence or its threat, control of money, movement or people. It asks in the details and again in the call, because natives do not always say it in writing. Where the answer is yes, the reading does what that page says: it stops at the safety line, it gives no timing for a return, it reads the native’s chart for the exit seasons and the pull’s calendar instead, and it says why. Where the native’s chart shows the signature of harm, Mars, Saturn and Rahu together on the seventh or its lord with the sixth or eighth lord’s touch, and the native has not said that the relationship harmed them, the reading asks once more, carefully, and reads the signature as a season of vulnerability rather than as a fact about the other person. This step is placed seventh rather than first only because the earlier steps are needed to read it; in the consultation’s order it is asked at the start and answered at the end, and it is the step that decides whether the eighth step is given at all. A reconciliation reading that skips it is the reading that times a return into a dangerous house, which this site does not do.
Step eight: the three answers, and how each is said
The yes with a season is said when the relationship’s carrier still runs or the next carrier is near, the native’s doors are open or opening, the person matches the description, and the second chart or the horary shows the other door open in the same season: the return is supported, it falls in such a sub-period with such a transit, the window is a few months wide, and the reading names it and says what carries it, since a return carried by Venus alone is contact and one carried by the period with Jupiter is a return. The no with a date is said when the carrier has turned, the present sub-period belongs to the twelfth, eighth or sixth lord or Ketu, Saturn or Ketu is on the seventh, and the second chart shows the other door closed: the period ended with the relationship, the ending holds, and the date is the sub-period’s change, which is the fact that lets the native stop asking. The no for now, with the later door named, is said when the native’s doors are closed in this sub-period and open in a later one, which is named, with the caution that a return two years on is a return to a different person and that the later door is a season for a bond and not a promise of this one. Each answer is given with its reasons, step by step, so that the native can see how it was reached and can check it against what they know, which is the difference between a reading and a pronouncement; and a maybe, a partial match with a brief overlap, is said as a maybe with the season named and is not upgraded because the native hoped.
What the reading will not do, and what you receive
It will not promise a return, in any of the three answers, since a yes with a season is a yes that the doors are open and not a yes that the person walks through them. It will not sell a remedy: no ritual, stone or puja that brings anyone back, since none does, and the pages that sell one are trading on the native’s grief. It will not read the other person’s chart as surveillance, what they do, whom they are with, whether they are faithful; it reads their capacity and their season for the native’s decision. It will not time a return into a relationship that harmed, and it will not read a partner’s chart for whether they have changed. And it will not give a second reading a week later when the first one said no; a repeated horary charts the worry rather than the relationship, and the native is told so. What the native receives is a written brief before the call, with the eight steps and their findings, the three dates from step two, the season from steps three, five or six, the answer from step eight in its form, and the reasons; then the call, in which the brief is walked through and the native’s questions taken; and, where the answer was a no or a no for now, the season after, the months in which the feeling lifts and the next carrier begins, which the page on moving on reads and which is, for most natives who receive a no, the part of the reading they use most.
A reading walked through: the broken engagement
A man asked, particulars altered, whether an engagement broken four months earlier could be remade; he had his own details, her date and place and an approximate time, and the timeline: met in a March, engaged two Novembers later, the engagement broken the following July after her family’s objection, no contact since. Step one: his time, checked against his job change and his move and the relationship’s dates, passed; the engagement fell in a Venus sub-period of his Rahu major period, which can carry one, and the break in the first weeks of Rahu-Sun. Step two: the carrier was Rahu-Venus, three years, and it had ended six weeks before the break; the break fell in Rahu-Sun, the Sun being his twelfth lord, the departure’s season; the present sub-period was still Rahu-Sun, eleven months long, with Rahu-Moon after it, eighteen months, the Moon ruling his fourth, not a carrier, and Rahu-Mars after that, Mars ruling his seventh, the next carrier, beginning twenty-five months on. Three dates, and the shape visible: the relationship had ended with the calendar, in the twelfth lord’s season, and the next door was nearly two years away. Step three: the doors closed, Saturn transiting his seventh for another year, Jupiter over his fourth, nothing over the fifth or seventh; closing, with the opening in Rahu-Mars. Step four: the seventh lord Mars in his ninth gave the partner from another tradition, which she was; the Navamsa seventh’s lord in dignity; the Darakaraka Jupiter, the partner of standing; she matched two of three, a seventh-house partner and not a fifth-house one.
Step five: her chart, on the approximate time, with the caution stated; the engagement had fallen in her Jupiter-Ketu, Ketu on her fifth, the sub-period that gives and lets go, and the break in Jupiter-Venus’s first weeks, Venus being her twelfth lord, the same shape as his, the departure’s season on both sides; her present sub-period was Jupiter-Venus, two years and eight months, the twelfth lord’s, and her next carrier, Jupiter-Sun, the Sun ruling her seventh, began twenty-eight months on. The two tables laid together: his Rahu-Mars, thirteen months from twenty-five months on, and her Jupiter-Sun, ten months from twenty-eight months on, overlapped for about ten months, a little over two years ahead, with Jupiter transiting his seventh in that year; a double window, narrow and real. The synastry: his seventh lord in her lagna sign, a bond overlay; her Moon in his fourth; his Saturn on her Venus, the weight; a bond and not merely an attraction. Step seven: no harm, asked twice. Step eight: the answer was the third kind, a no for now with the later door named. The period that carried the engagement ended with it, on both sides, in the same weeks, which is why the break felt like weather to both of them; the doors are closed for the next two years and nothing said or done in them reopens anything; both doors open in a window a little over two years on, ten months wide, and it is a real window for a bond between these two charts, which the synastry supports, and it is also the first carrier window either chart has had since the break, so it is a window for a bond and not a promise of this one. He was told the season after, Rahu-Sun’s end and the Moon’s sub-period, in which the feeling would thin and his home would occupy him; and he was told that the family’s objection, which he thought was the cause, had been the twelfth lord’s sub-period wearing a family’s face, which is the sentence he said he had needed. The window came; they met in it, by her family’s arrangement, which no one had predicted; and what they did with it was theirs, which is where every reading on this page ends.
Frequently asked questions
How does a reconciliation reading work in astrology?
As a fixed sequence of eight checks: the birth time is tested against dated events; the relationship is placed in the dasha by the sub-period it began and ended in; the doors of the seventh and fifth are read against the twelfth and eighth by sub-period and transit; the other person is compared to the spouse the chart describes; the second chart is added for the double window, or a horary is cast when there are no details; the safety question is asked; and one of three answers is given with a season. Nothing is promised and nothing is sold.
What details do I need to send for a reconciliation reading?
Your date, time and place of birth; the relationship’s timeline, the months it began and ended, any earlier separations and returns, an engagement or a move, and the last contact, which is the material the reading uses most; the other person’s date and place if you have them, with the time marked as sure or unsure; three or four dated events from your own life for the birth time check; and the question as you actually mean it, since “will they come back”, “should I wait” and “is it over” are three different questions.
Can a reconciliation be read without the other person’s birth details?
Yes, at the third tier: your own chart is read for the period, the doors, the timing and the spouse description, and a horary chart cast for the moment you sincerely ask, or for a number between 1 and 249, reads the other person as the seventh house, the reception and the aspect between the two lords, and the timing. The horary is read beside the natal steps and not instead of them; it is asked once, since a repeated horary charts the worry rather than the relationship.
What are the possible answers of a reconciliation reading?
Three, because the chart contains three: a yes with a season, when the carrier still runs or the next is near, the doors are open, the person fits the description and the other door is open in the same season; a no with a date, when the carrier has turned and the present sub-period belongs to a breaker, the date being the sub-period’s change; and a no for now with the later door named, when the doors are closed now and open in a later sub-period, with the caution that a later door is a season for a bond and not a promise of this one.
Will the reading tell me a remedy to get my partner back?
No. No ritual, stone or puja brings anyone back, and a reading here sells none; the pages that do are trading on the reader’s grief. What the reading gives instead is the answer in its form with a season and its reasons, and, where the answer is no, the months in which the feeling lifts and the next carrier begins, which is the part most natives who receive a no use most.
Why does the reading check my birth time first?
Because the dasha dates move by months for a few minutes of error, the Navamsa lagna changes every thirteen minutes or so, and a seventh house near a sign boundary changes outright, so a reading on a rounded time is a reading of the wrong chart and is wrong by a season, which is the way that matters. The recorded time is tested against your dated events and the relationship’s own dates, and a time that fails is narrowed or referred for rectification rather than read.
What if the relationship was harmful?
The reading asks, in the details and again in the call, and where the answer is yes it stops at the safety line: it gives no timing for a return, does not read the other person’s chart for whether they have changed, and reads your chart instead for the exit seasons and for the seasons in which the pull back will be strongest, so they can be planned for. Where your chart shows the signature of harm and you have not said so, it asks once more, carefully, and reads the signature as a season of vulnerability and not as a fact about anyone.
The written brief with all eight steps, then the call: one of three answers, with its season and its reasons.
A reconciliation consultation checks your birth time, places the relationship in your dasha with its three dates, reads your doors and the spouse description, adds the second chart and the double window or a horary, asks the safety question, and gives you the answer in one of its three forms with the season named and the reasons shown, in a written brief before the call and in the call itself.